What’s your name?
What do you do/what part(s) of the biz do you work in?
How did you get started in the industry?
Dancing, kind of embarrassing actually my ex boyfriend invited the neighbor over and she would talk about how she was an exotic dancer and it sparked my interest because I was homeless at the time and struggling to be independent . She suggested I go that night with her and try out, I went and had a clumsy rushed audition in these pointy boots from goodwill . I somehow got hired and found out that my new coworker and boyfriend had done things behind my back. I stopped speaking to both of them and threw myself into dancing n never looked back.
FSW I was in over my head and fell into dangerous hands at 19 It definitely wasn’t for me. They allowed me to go home eventually, empty handed of course. And I was never the same, let’s be honest; some of us aren’t meant for that. I briefly came back to it for a few months in 2021 under better management and found financial stability and immediately went back to dancing which was always the goal.
If you’ve worked in more than one aspect of SW, which is your favorite and why?
Dancing 100% Especially after escorting I found it so empowering to be able to put physical distance between myself and clients. I think it’s temptation that makes the world go ‘round. I love the whole process of performing. Picking out my outfit, my music, squirting excess amounts of pole grip on my hands and rubbing them together like a fly. I love spinning and fulfilling my dreams of feeling like a ballerina on stage.
How have you made yourself stand out when working?
My music taste definitely <3.
I like dancing to Baby smoove, OTM, BlueBucksClan and Peezy. Especially at the clubs I dance at in the Midwest. It’s definitely a change.
What is your funniest story related to work?
Probably when I was dancing in a section and this guy tripped on a rug and flew down these stairs. I was trying to avoid eye contact with my dancing partner but I couldn’t help laughing.
What is a goal you’re proud you were able to reach while doing and because of SW?
Being able to set boundaries in my relationships and learning how to communicate with people of all ages. I feel like the more people I talk to , the more I understand and empathize.
What is something you feel needs to change in the industry?
I wish we offered healthcare <3
What is your best tip for making money at work?
Clients can smell your desperation. Don’t think about those bills you need to pay… focus on having a good time and they will be taken care of. The money will come , it always does. And if it’s not your night it’s someone else’s night and just to be happy for them bc your turn might be next time. Just making peace knowing that in the back of your mind.
What has been something SW helped you with/encouraged you to do, or how has SW made you more confident?
it encourages me to explore my look and aesthetic while finding an appreciation for everyone else’s beauty at the same time. I love that I’m constantly surrounded by beautiful women and we are always connecting and empowering one another. all my coworkers look/act different and I love that.
What has been your biggest challenge in the industry?
Allowing coworkers to move into my apartment… I’ve only had one good experience with that and we’re still friends to this day. It definitely felt overwhelming at the time and I never realized how much time I needed to myself to separate work from my personal life.
Sw is exhausting physically, mentally, and emotionally- How do you decompress and engage in self care in the face of that?
I have a nice warm bath and play sims on my laptop. I like making her go to her 9-5 job and having her check her mail. I will often have my best friend over and we play GTA and pay for the ladies of the night and laugh and crash every single car we steal. I also have a ‘zen room’ where I lay down next to my many plants and relax.
Describe your best night ever working!
I feel like it hasn’t happened yet, I’m feeling something amazing coming next year. I’ve had friends come and visit me at work and that always feels like the best night ever<3
We all have a story about a babe in the industry who we loved and were inspired by from the moment we met her- tell us about her/them:
Olive, she’s so elegant and hypnotic to watch. Her body wraps around the pole and she makes everything look so effortless. If I were to sit at her tip rail I feel like I would fall under her trace.
What do you wish people knew about us (SWers), and about you personally as a SWer?
I have a story, we all have a story. We all have a reason for being where we are currently. I love hearing about clients days, where they work, what they do at work and hearing their life story. I love talking with strangers and them knowing their secrets are safe with me.
How have you dealt with the stigma of being out as a SW, if you’ve faced any?
I was homeschooled and raised very religious, so my adoptive family wasn’t exactly thrilled hearing about it. I fully embraced it so negative feedback doesn’t really bother me at this point. I understand either way. It used to be a pretty taboo subject.
What are your plans for the future (can be related to the industry or not!!)?
I can’t wait to have my own garden and find peace. After I finish dancing I’m going to live a very reclusive lifestyle and delete my social media so we have to enjoy this ‘dancer era’ while it’s here.
There is a lot of talk nowadays about sex work being “empowering.” Is this true for you and why or why not?
I would say it is for me. I was homeless for 2 and a half years before I started dancing and it was such a blessing. I managed to pull myself out of a rut I had put myself into. It’s also empowering because you find your alter ego / dancer identity.
What is something you wish you’d known when you started in the industry?
You should always have a plan for what you’re doing after dancing. You never wanna grow to hate the thing you do everyday.